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People who suffer loss of a loved one feel unspeakable pain. I know I felt on the verge of insanity.
Sudden and tragic loss leads to terrible darkness that seems inescapable.
Every day we hear about someone who is suffering the loss of a loved one. Until we have experienced it ourselves we do not listen intently with our hearts.
Because of what I have suffered I am now more sensitive to the pain others are suffering. I’m not as selfish as I used to be.
I’ve come to the realization the God I serve has suffered unbearable pain and loss and therefore understands my pain.
I devour the Word Of God so I can gain strength to endure my suffering .
He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. Deuteronomy 31:6
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. 1 Peter 5:7
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. Isaiah 43:2
He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Isaiah 40:29
WHY ME LORD?? What have I done wrong? Isn’t that what we ask when something goes wrong in our lives? Think about it for a minute. Why someone else? Why not me? Who am I to think tragedy can only happen to other families but not mine. Aren’t they just as important as I?
Someone asked Talitha if she believed Mitchell and I were paying penance for something we’ve done wrong. God is punishing us so he took our daughter.
Talitha was quick to say “ABSOLUTELY NOT!! Jesus died on the cross for all sins and we do not pay penance, for God paid the penalty for everyone. Talitha further explained that as hard as it is to understand – that is just the course of life’s cycle. We are born, we live, we die, our spirit goes back to our maker. Tabatha's accident was just that - an accident. No matter how old a loved one is when they die it seems too soon for those of us who are left behind to deal with the loss.
I’ve come across a song sung by Guy Penrod that has helped me and I would like to share it with you.
Knowing What I Know About Heaven
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I now live for today. I ask God each morning what I can do to touch another heart. How can I help ease someone else’s pain and suffering? Who needs a smile today, who needs a kind word, who needs to know they are someone special? Please Lord help me be a vessel that pours out your love to each one I meet. Before today ends help me tell someone about your wonderful love and grace.
That is how Tabatha Alice Kitchen lived her life and I want to do the same.
Our grief and sorrow bring to light the importance of living today to it’s fullest. Never let the sun go down on your wrath. It just isn’t worth it – be humble and forgive as Christ has forgiven us.
Tabatha was a peacemaker, a gentle spirit, a very forgiving soul and she loved deeply. If you were fortunate enough to have been Tabatha’s family or friend you were loved by the best. If Tab was hurt by someone she would automatically forgive them and do everything in her power to mend the wound, and make things right.
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Love deeply friends. Forgive easily. Make sure to hug your loved ones today. Tell them how much you love them. Make sure they know how special they are to you. It will mean the world to them if any thing should happen to you. As Talitha said it is life’s cycle: we are born, we live and unfortunately we die .
Think of this; when we are saying goodbye down here, Jesus and the angels and saying welcome home in Heaven. Our loved ones are not dead but are alive and well living with Jesus in Heaven for all of eternity. Someday we’ll see them again and there will be a great reunion day.
I wrote a poem a few months after Tabatha’s accident that I would like to share with you:
Trusting When It Hurts
In You Oh God I Put My Trust
Though My Life In Utter Caous Is Thrust
With A Broken Heart I Call On Your Name
Please Give Me Strength And Keep Me Sane
When I Don’t Feel You God And Can’t Understand
I’ll trust In You – Please Hold My Hand
When I’m Sad And Lonely And My Heart Breaks In Two
I have The Promise That You’ll See Me Through
You Have Been Faithful Down Through The Years
I Choose To Trust You With My Fears
I Give You My Heartache, My Troubles, My Pain
I Ask For Your Strength In Jesus Name
I Trust You God When It Seems You’re Not There
When I Walk Through The Valley And I’m Burdened With Cares
For I Know Whom I Serve, Your Promises Are True
You’ll Carry Me When I Can’t Walk, Your Love Will See Me Though
You Blessed Our Lives With An Angel On Loan
She Brought Joy To Our Hearts – Now You’ve Called Her Home
Though Our Hearts Are Torn As We Say Goodbye
We Know Reunion Day Will Be Soon - In Heaven On High
See You Soon My Beautiful Angel
Love Mom
September 30/2009
I will be back sometime this week to share with you more of my story of “My Walk Down Grief Valley” I’ll share with you what happened in the days after the accident.
I would like to leave you with a few scriptures to encourage your heart:
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8, 9
Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord. Psalm 27:14
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
Our soul waiteth for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. Psalm 33:20
Remember dear friends if you are suffering with grief you may feel God has forsaken you. You may pray and read His word and wonder why you don’t feel His presence. I know I often ask God: could you please come down and wrap me in your arms of love and comfort me. Ease this pain, give me peace, stop this hurting? Although I sometimes can’t feel His presence I know He is there for He promised He would never leave nor forsake me.
God loves you and wants to bring you comfort. Allow Him to do that by reading His word and having daily communion with Him.
Until the next post – take care of yourself, love yourself, get help, reach out to family and friends. They want to be there for you.
P.S. ONE step at a time, ONE day at a time, ONE hour at a time, ONE minute at a time - it's all you can handle